When You're Processing Something Heavy

You're processing something heavy. Painful. Complicated.

Where to even begin? It's a big ball of wax.

Here's a strategy to make it a bit less heavy, invite you into peace, and gently guide you towards clarity. 

Whether this be grief, crisis, or shock, this can prove to be a helpful strategy.

Every life experience carries thoughts—the facts, information—and then there's the emotions. 

When we connect our emotions with our thinking, our emotions intensify our thoughts which intensifies our emotions and it all snowballs.

So instead, try this.

The emotions live in your body—where are they? Chest, throat, gut, head?

Sit with the feeling. The physical sensation. Just notice it, don't judge, and send it love. With a bit of attention, you should notice it subsiding a bit.

When it feels that the emotions have settled, then and only then allow yourself to step back into "thought." And as you're "thinking," notice when the emotions begin to intensify.

When the emotions grow louder, pause again. Focus back on the emotions and repeat the process.

This isn't something to do all in an evening. It's over the course of days, weeks, months. Just a simple strategy. No need to be litigious. Sometimes we have to think of something and address it immediately. This technique is more directed towards those painful, long roads.

Blessings, friend. You are seen, you are safe, you are loved. ❤