Why Do People Love-Bomb?

Have you ever had someone treat you like a queen, chasing you down like a ten-point buck, until you’re theirs, and then they treat you like trash?

It’s the wildest thing. The weirdest thing. And your rational, logical brain tries to make sense of it.

Maybe they were trying to trick you. To trap you. They did this on-purpose.

Maybe?

But maybe there’s a deeper reason.

Because I did this to Ryan.

I was pretty crazy about him right off the bat. He always had it together. He was really going to make something with his life and I loved his calm, consistent ways.

But then things shifted inside of me over time. I had more and more to nitpick at him about and could see more and more ways he just didn’t quite measure up to “ideal” (whatever that is).

Upon recent reflection, I discovered something deeper—

My criticisms of him had absolutely nothing to do with him.

But they had everything to do with me— 

With a core wound.

A wound that said, “You’re not worth much. Nothing really great will come to you. You’ll always be mediocre at best. You’ll always have mediocre at best.” 

And what once sounded like a prediction became a lens through which I saw my own reality.

Everything I “wanted” was amazing, fantastic, ideal!

And everything I “had” was subpar at best.

Because I was subpar at best.

Every moment of every decision and way we act in our lives is driven by the narratives living in our subconscious mind.

If you want to change your world, change your subconscious.